Dear Judge Mental Jones,
My brother called me from inpatient Gambling Rehabilitation and asked me to make all of his fantasy baseball transactions, and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want him to be angry at me, and I don’t want to get him in trouble, but I fear he won’t love me anymore.
Dear Fear Based Love,
Listen to me. If your brother is GOOD at gambling, take the advice and use your own money so that you can profit. However, if he’s in Rehab it’s because of his mounting debt, so don’t be a pussy and tell him to fuck off. You’re a total ENABLER. If the thought of someone “being angry” at you is affecting your decision making, then you, my friend, ARE the problem. Learn to be an adult by saying NO more than yes.
Hell hath no fury like Judge Mental Jones to Enablers.
How about you outsource the job to a friend that sounds like you. They’ll call and say “no” to your brother on your behalf, you baby. Then, you don’t have to be a snitch, and your brother will be mad at someone who isn’t even you. And I’LL be angry at you if you continue this charade of “I want to help him get better but not if it involves him getting angry.” Ughhhhhhhh!
A huge key to successful rehab of all kinds is the need for family and friends to be on the same page. If there are any weak links, like you, it could threaten a relapse when your brother leaves inpatient treatment. If you didn’t read that correctly due to your crocodile tears being in the way, read it again.
Now I’ll be nice and gentle for a second. I understand you may have other issues that trigger this guilt you’re feeling, so you’ll need to do some work. Trust me. My guess is that you always want everyone to like you and that doesn’t always work out for you, does it? You’ll have to learn to deal with yourself on those issues if you don’t want this situation to continue for the rest of your life.
A good book for you to read is called Radical Forgiveness: A Revolutionary Five-Stage Process to:- Heal Relationships – Let Go of Anger and Blame – Find Peace in Any Situation. Tell Amazon Judge Mental Jones sent you.
xo Judge Mental Jones
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