Herpes is a very common virus that affects a massive portion of the population. In the U.S., it’s estimated that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 5 men live with herpes, and many of them do so without even realizing it. However, even though herpes is quite prevalent, there’s still an unfair stigma attached to it, and those who have it, especially those who have recently contracted it, can quickly fall into depression.
The many negative thoughts that run through the minds of those infected can be, “I don’t feel attractive.”, “I’m damaged goods.”, “My life is over.”, “I’m too scared to tell anyone because of what people will think of me.”, and “Who would want to be with me?”
For many, it takes a long time to get over the public and self-inflicted stigma as there is a massive amount of shame involved that drives some people even to become suicidal. If this sounds like you, please go to our resource page and call your country specific suicide hotline immediately.
Besides the outbreaks which can be reduced with suppressive therapy, and the feelings of shame, which usually heal with time, the biggest fear involves infecting other partners. At a certain point, people come to terms with their own Herpes life, but it’s hard for them to deal with causing this pain in/to others. It’s a big hurdle for your mind to get over, and it stops a lot of people from living and getting on with their love life that they truly deserve. Sometimes the only cure to this issue is finding yourself the right partner who loves you for you. In a way, even though you might not think it right now, the herpes virus is helping you weed out the bad seeds, and it’s putting you on the fast track to what you truly want in a person.
Have we put your mind at ease? Probably not, as you’ll just time, but try your best to get through this state quickly because the stress you’re creating helps feed the herpes virus and causes more outbreaks, which then causes you even more anxiety, and so on, and so on. It’s a vicious cycle. However, if you can stop the cycle, your overall health will benefit greatly. So join internet groups, online or offline therapy, and find others herpes veterans that can answer your questions, make you feel less alone, and be a guide to get you through some days when you might need it most.
If you or a loved one you know battles with any Mental Health Issues, please do get the help you need. If you need to talk to someone now, you can talk to one of the many fantastic therapists at Better Help by CLICKING HERE.
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