In Love, Simon the main character, Simon, describes his amazing family through narration but says there’s ‘just one thing’ he has a secret- he’s gay.
The basic plot of the film revolves around a secret-telling blog that’s followed by everyone in his school and one day an anonymous post gets published saying ‘I’m gay.’ So Simon reaches out to this person under the pseudonym ‘Jacques’ and reveals his secret. It feels inspiring when you meet someone who has the same secrets as you. The fundamental fear of being rejected by close loved ones resonated with me as my father doesn’t know I’m gay. I don’t want to be treated differently for a topic that doesn’t change who I am, like my mental illness or sexual preference.
My mom knows I’m gay. She’s an ally and only asked ‘how long have you known?’ She’s treated me the same ever since. However, my dad is an unabashed homophobe who refuses to drop outdated terminology like ‘fags’ and bible references. It’s hard to tolerate hearing that- never mind becoming the TOPIC of that discussion. There’s a self-preservation that comes into place when it comes to initiating a risk-assessed-highly-likely conflict. And my hetero allies would often say ‘just do it, just tell him,’ even though they wouldn’t have to manage the consequences, or cope with a strained parental relationship – or almost worse- a ‘fake’ relationship after that. It boggles my mind when people try to vote on how I should approach my Dad. I’ve yet to ask for advice, but I get it all the time from people who have never been in my shoes.
In the film, the fear that Simon feels is so relatable that it shakes me. People tend to edit themselves on specific topics that they know pertain to you. So the genius of secrecy is you get to find out how people really feel about ‘Gays’ before you come out. His friends say they found ‘THE gay guy!’ His dad calls ‘The Bachelor’ ‘Fruity’ and observes that he has more chemistry with men. Simon’s dad is also masculine, with no direct experience with being gay or gay people- hence he relies on stereotypes, political and media portrayals of external influences which can create debilitating prejudices.
‘Why do only gay people have to come out?’ Simon asks. ‘What if heteros had the same reactions?’ He states brilliantly. Simon continues, ‘part of me wants to hold onto who I’ve always been for just a little longer.’ Watching all this made me feel it as I want to keep my Dad- and his positive views of me a little longer.
This movie is a fantastic coming-of-age movie about coming out, and it resonated me in every way. This is a realistic depiction of what it feels like to be brave enough to risk it all and to live your truth. Love, Simon is really relatable and inspirational for anyone who’s ever had to come out (and for those of us still struggling). Gay or straight, do yourself a favor and watch this incredible movie today.
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Photo Credit: 20th Century Fox