Dear Judge Mental Jones,
I have about 3 months until my wedding(lesbian wedding), and I was looking forward to it until my dad informed me that he won’t be attending due to religious reasons. Even though he accepts me, I had a strange feeling that this would happen but it’s still quite upsetting. He believes wholeheartedly in the God-Family-Country Motto, and now that I officially know that I am number two on this list, I’ve just been sad and hurt. I don’t know how to move past this. Any advice?
Dear My Dad Won’t Attend My Gay Wedding,
First, big hugs. Second, I’m not going to be one of those assholes that rips your dad a new asshole due to his religious beliefs. This is what he truly believes and who am I to tell him otherwise. I may not agree with it, but I’m not him.
Besides the marriage aspect of your relationship, it sounds like your dad is accepting of you and your fiancee pre-marriage? So it is possible that it’s only the knot tying that he has the issue with, as I assume it says in the bible somewhere that a man and a woman should only be married. I never read the thing. Sue me!
Personally, I think the institution of marriage is pretty stupid. I mean, it was only created for government reasons and sharing healthcare benefits. And if any of my friends plan on getting married, I always ask them not to invite me. I don’t want to watch people making speeches about how much they love each other. I hate all love story movies and romantic comedies, so why would I want to go to a wedding?
Sorry, I went off on a personal tangent there.
I don’t think you should be offended by your father’s absence as it’s a belief he’s had his whole life, and nothing’s gonna change him now. I’m assuming he’s like 83 years old and loved the Andy Griffith Show back in his day, but now loves the 700 Club.
Anyway, I think it’s best you work on making yourself happy and concentrate on the beautiful life you plan on having with your fiancee.
xo Judge Mental Jones
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