The Sun and Her Flowers shook me to the Kaur. New York Times best seller Rupi Kaur has written yet another beautiful collection of poetry. The Sun and Her Flowers is a journey of emotions divided into 5 chapters aptly named wilting, falling, rooting, rising and blooming. By page 3, I was reminded that her poems are so moving and illustrative that I could become very triggered at times and I did often.
“I stuffed a towel at the foot of every door
Leave I told the air
I have no use for you
I drew every curtains in the house
Go I told the light
No one is coming in
And no one is going out
How familiar. These words ripped open an excruciating wound of dark days and heartbreak. Three years ago, I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder after a deep clinical depression that I had hoped to forget. It’s as though she had broken into my mind and perfectly articulated my darkest thoughts from that suppressed era onto paper. And so, the tears began.
By Chapter 2, Falling, I was absolutely shook. Kaur depicts her rape experiences in such an illustrative and heart-wrenching way. Her empathy-inducing and sometimes cringe-worthy statements ripped through my soul.
For Example: “hands that were not mine inside me.” I’ve often thought back to the trauma that this line encompasses. However, Kaur continues on an empowering note, “It takes a broken person to come searching for meaning between my legs. It takes a completely. Whole. Person. To survive it.” This moved me to blubbering tears with it’s heart wrenching inspiration.
Then came the hope-filled oasis that is Chapter 4, Rooting. It focuses on overcoming and learning to love again (yourself AND others).
“remember when you were sure
the last one was the one
and now here you are
redefining the one all over again”
– a fresh love is a gift
In Chapter 5, Blooming, Kaur gives us a survival guide of mantras to cope with the emotional hangover from the first few chapters.
“To heal you have to get to the root of the wound and kiss all the way up”. Yesss Queen!!!
Too often we try to bandaid our traumas, depression or heartbreak. The way out of depression or pain is through it, as Kaur perfectly illustrates.
Like many people, I have experienced a series of trauma throughout different stages of my life. I often handled it in a very cynical and depressive way. It wasn’t until three years ago, and a period of eight days of crying, that I became diagnosed as having Bipolar. Once I located meds and therapy (and writing!) I was able to patch myself up into the productive and functioning human being that I am today. This is why it’s so important to “get to the root of the wound and kiss all the way up.”
In The Sun and Her Flowers, Rupi Kaur perfectly encapsulates the notion that we have (somehow) managed to survive 100% of our worst days so far, and that we’re capable of creating strength and even beauty out of chaos.
“And here you are, living, despite it all”- Rupi Kaur
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