The Spy Who Raised Me & The Struggle Of Identity

Posted by Amber Adams | Jun 19, 2018 | Identity, Reviews | 0 |

Have you ever heard a family secret that altered your entire perception of identity? I was 18 when I first heard that I had a brother. My Dad had cheated on my mom (with her best friend) and had a boy. They live in the States now, and my Dad left us to join them. My sense of trust and identity was shattered. How could they keep this from me? How will I ever trust again, after keeping a 16-year secret from me? And that’s why I found such solace in the movie, The Spy Who Raised Me.

I this jaw-dropping documentary, Chelsea Dittrich shares the emotional journey of finding out her dad worked for the KGB. It was on her way to college as her dad was dropping her off that he was casually shared his identity-defragmenting tidbit of information. (This sounds exactly how my father would handle things).

It was a moment in Chelsea’s life where, like me, the whole bottom fell from underneath her. Chelsea candidly discusses her false sense of identity, and her struggles with relationships now.

It’s heartbreaking how one’s struggle with identity can shape your life. This may be a story about finding out through circumstances that you may not be who you thought you were or are. But at its core, it’s about the struggle for identity.

For those of you out there who aren’t the best at being empathetic toward children who have been adopted, or even for children that realize they are gay, here’s a way for you to maybe jump into their shoes and feel what it might be like for them.

Figuring out your identity is a struggle even when you have no outside factors influencing you. It’s a confusing time. If anything, while watching this documentary, think about others, and maybe how you can make their identity search and transition a much safer and easier one on their souls.

The more love you feel as a child when encountering these new revelations, the less of a struggle you’ll have when you get older. This movie is an excellent watch for anyone who is struggling with their childhood identity, and I highly recommend you watch it today.


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Photo Credit: Satish Krishnamurthy

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