It’s important to have healthy relationships in life and that includes your friendships too. Most people become or act like the five people you spend the most time with, so make sure you’re fostering nurturing friendships that help each other grow and feel supported. After all, friends are the family that you choose, so be sure to audit your friendships often to make sure that you’re both equally healthy contributors. Here are the Top 10 tips for being a good friend.
Don’t listen waiting for your turn to talk. Use empathy language like “that must be hard for you,” “I’m here to help,” or “I can’t imagine what you’re going through.” Do your best to truly listen to your friends. Find a book on active listening and get started today.
It’s not your dreams they’re living; it’s theirs! Let them date bad choices and travel to crazy places, but show them that you’re there for them every step of the way. Even small things such as liking their photos online. If your friend has a boyfriend or business that you don’t like, let THEM decide how to handle it and support them throughout. If they have mental health issues or addictions, let THEM decide when to seek treatment. Your job can be helping them guide them there when the time is right.
Nourish Your Friends
Take photos of them, but only post the good ones! Delete their exes in solidarity after a breakup (even if you have to do it more than once!) If they have dreams or ideas, send them things they like or might learn from to foster their plans. They’ll love you for it.
Contribute To The Friendship
When it comes to making plans, activities, etc. Be proactive and meet them halfway, so it doesn’t feel like either side is doing the bulk of the work. Also, always treat them like a friend and not a parent. Never use the language “I told you.” NEVER!
Use “I” Language
If you have disagreements, always make it about your feelings, as most likely you were triggered by an action. Discuss how this action triggered an old issue from your past and how it feels for you. You’ll understand each better and your friendship will be stronger in the long run.
Learn To Say NO
Saying “yes” to things you don’t want to do or that are outside of your budget is healthy. Set up boundaries, and don’t avoid saying no or discussing disagreements because it will build resentment.
Water Your Plants/Friends
Let your friends know how you feel by saying things like “I’m proud of you,” “You are so strong,” or even by tagging them in funny likeminded memes to let them know that you’re thinking about them
Take ownership when you’re wrong. Say I’m sorry, it won’t happen again.
Don’t just call when you need something or to vent. “I love you’s” can come in the form of “how are you” with friends. Unsolicited. You’d be surprised how many people are fighting battles you know nothing about.
Talk About Goals, Not People
Empower each other with future talk instead of gossip to keep each other focused and in high spirits. Create vision boards and travel plans together. Be each other’s inspiration and biggest fans. Make a big deal about accomplishments and achievements together.
Now go out there and be a great friend today!!!!!!!
This post was created with the help of Grammarly.
Photo Credit: Stuart Seeger