As someone who battles Bipolar Disorder, a lot of the time I feel unworthy of love because of the stigma that’s attached to my mental health issues. I just want people to realize that many of their beliefs about Bipolar Disorder are not the reality of the situation. Here are my Top Five Tips For Dating Someone With Bipolar Disorder.
Remember They Aren’t Just Their Illness
People aren’t “Bipolar,” they have/battle Bipolar Disorder. They could also have a Mac, or an iPhone, or a Job, but none of those single factors make up the person. People are multi-faceted with interests, strengths, and weaknesses.
It’s Not Your Job To Fix Them
As heartbreaking as it may feel to watch someone battle mental, emotional and/or physical pain- exploring treatments, solutions and coping mechanisms are up to them. You need to use empathy and compassion and accept them at whatever stage they’re currently at. You can suggest a change or help, but they might not be prepared to follow your advice, and you have to be ready for that possibility. Let them be to deal with their issues.
You Need To Communicate Openly
If your partner knows that you’re not judgemental, they’ll be more like to open up their communication about their mental health. Try not to stigmatize or identify symptoms. Don’t take on an unnecessary role that they didn’t ask you to take. No one wants a second mother they didn’t ask for.
Having A Mental Illness Doesn’t Mean They’re Unstable
Everyone develops coping mechanisms to deal with life on life’s terms. If the person you’re dating confides in you, hear them out without assuming that you know what they’re dealing with or how this has altered their life.
Set Boundaries And Take Care Of Yourself
You should available for emotional support, but also understand that you are not obligated to say yes. There will always be times when someone in the relationship is more vulnerable or needs more support, and it won’t always be the person with the mental illness. Take care of yourself first and remember that support goes both ways.
If you or a loved one you know battles with Bipolar Disorder or any Mental Health Issues, please do get the help you need. If you need to talk to someone now, you can talk to one of the many fantastic therapists at Better Help by CLICKING HERE.