Over the last couple of days, there have been reports of Popstar, Demi Lovato, being hospitalized for an apparent drug overdose. I’m not going to speculate about the who, what, where, how and why, of the situation, but instead, I’d like to talk about why, I, a 40-year-old man, loves Demi Lovato.
The only reason I’ve ever heard the music of Demi Lovato is because I have four nieces. And about 3-4 years ago, one of these nieces was obsessed with Lovato. And when I say obsessed, it’s all she talked about. She became a full-fledged, Lovatic. I love making my nieces laugh, so I listened to Demi Lovato’s music and did my best to learn some of the song lyrics so when we were in the car, I could join in and butcher the sing-along that would ensue. In my experience, getting to know the music that my nieces like is an excellent way to bond and share something with them. So my attempt at being a kind and loving uncle is how my relationship with Demi Lovato began.
Now, over the course of my nieces Lovatic Phase, her obsession became a little scary in my opinion, but she was a tween, so I just chalked it up to it being a phase. She would cry a lot while listening to Demi’s music and she’d tell my family members how perfect Lovato was. At first, I didn’t understand her Lovato Love, but I never tried to talk her out of her opinion. Instead, I was curious and asked why she thought Lovato was perfect. My niece response? ‘Because Demi knows she’s not perfect.’
Growing up in the age of social media is something I’m thankful that I do not have to endure. The pressures to be a certain way or have a particular aesthetic have never been greater. And here’s this Popstar with warts and all, making her mistakes/demons/mental health in public, owning them, discussing them, and still battling them for everyone to see. Some may not see her as a good role model for young girls, but I see it as the opposite. She’s creating a dialogue, and it’s a healthy one. She’s letting young women know that it’s okay not to be perfect and she’s leading by example, but in a way that’s not glorifying the issues at hand.
Even though Lovato may not be healthy right now, she’s been continuously opening up a healthy conversation for young girls/women to have. Even though she’s a Popstar, she also feels like the rest of us. There’s something to be said about ‘The Common Person’ quality. People identify with her and are drawn to her because they feel like they share the same struggles just like them. And that’s a powerful quality to have, and I’m excited to see how she takes this latest setback and propels herself and this dialogue even further.
And that’s why this 40 year-old-man loves Demi Lovato.
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